"Tell Someone," to Both Women and Men

Elena Duque; Patricia Melgar; Sara Gómez-Cuevas; Garazi López de Aguileta

doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2021.673048

"Tell Someone," to Both Women and Men

Front Psychol. 2021 May 10:12:673048. doi: 10.3389/fpsyg.2021.673048. eCollection 2021.

Authors

Elena Duque¹, Patricia Melgar², Sara Gómez-Cuevas³, Garazi López de Aguileta⁴

Affiliations

¹ Department of Theory and History of Education, University of Barcelona, Barcelona, Spain.
² Department of Education, University of Girona, Girona, Spain.
³ Department of Sociology, University of Barcelona, Barcelona, Spain.
⁴ Department of Curriculum and Instruction, University of Wisconsin-Madison, Madison, WI, United States.

Abstract

Contrary to an understanding of the struggle against gender violence as placing men and women in opposition to one another, victims have always been supported by both women and men. To prevent violence is important to know not only which message should be transmitted but also how the dialogue should unfold, and the characteristics of the people engaging in that dialogue. Because of the existing association between attraction and violence in our society, the unity of the language of ethics and the language of desire in such dialogue has become a key element in the struggle against gender violence. This study identifies the strong presence of communicative acts that unify these languages in the women (feminism) and men (New Alternative Masculinities) who are successful in this struggle. The opposition to violence that they defend guide their own desires, which are transmitted through their communicative acts to the people around them.

Keywords: communicative acts; feminism; language of desire; new alternative masculinities; violence against women.