Women Interact More Comfortably and Intimately With Gay Men-But Not Straight Men-After Learning Their Sexual Orientation

Psychol Sci. 2018 Feb;29(2):288-303. doi: 10.1177/0956797617733803. Epub 2018 Jan 8.

Abstract

Research suggests that the development of close, opposite-sex friendships is frequently impeded by men's often one-sided sexual attraction to women. But what if this element were removed? The current research tested the hypothesis that women engage in more comfortable and intimate interactions with a gay (but not a straight) man immediately after discovering his sexual orientation. In two studies, female participants engaged in imagined or actual initial interactions with either a straight man or a gay man. After the man's sexual orientation was revealed, women (particularly attractive ones) who were paired with a gay man reported greater anticipated comfort, which was mediated by their reduced worry about his sexual intentions (Study 1). Further, once women discovered that they were interacting with a gay man, they displayed more intimate engagement behaviors with him (Study 2). These findings reveal how, and why, close relationships often form quickly between women and gay men.

Keywords: heterosexual women; homosexual men; initial interactions; open data; open materials; opposite-sex friendship; sexual attraction; sexual orientation.

MeSH terms

  • Adolescent
  • Adult
  • Female
  • Friends / psychology*
  • Heterosexuality / psychology*
  • Homosexuality / psychology*
  • Humans
  • Interpersonal Relations*
  • Male
  • Sexual Behavior / psychology*
  • Social Behavior*
  • Young Adult