T cells regulate the immune responses to pathogens and autoantigens. The immune responses are tolerizing or anti-inflammatory against autoantigens but are inflammatory against pathogens and allografts. Such contradictory immune responses have been attributed to two counteracting effector cell types or to two counterregulatory sets of molecules: cell-surface expressed or secreted. By contrast, recent reports suggest that CD40, a co-stimulatory molecule on antigen-presenting cells, is a crucial controller of these counteractive immune responses, and emphasize reciprocal inhibition as an essential feature of biological responses. The molecular mechanism of such reciprocity in CD40 functions is the basis of immunotherapy in many diseases.