It is seldom that it is only the patient who is affected when someone is admitted to compulsory psychiatric inpatient care, the next of kin is usually also impacted. The aim was to describe the lived experiences of being a next of kin to a woman in need of compulsory psychiatric inpatient care. Ten next of kin were interviewed and the material was analyzed with a Reflective Lifeworld Research approach. The results show loneliness and feelings that their existence has collapsed. An emotional duality is described in the realization that the care is needed but they are devastated that the woman is there. A trust exists, but it changes when the next of kin are no longer a part of the care process.