You Can't See the Real Me: Attachment Avoidance, Self-Verification, and Self-Concept Clarity

Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2018 Aug;44(8):1133-1146. doi: 10.1177/0146167218760799. Epub 2018 Mar 19.

Abstract

Attachment shapes people's experiences in their close relationships and their self-views. Although attachment avoidance and anxiety both undermine relationships, past research has primarily emphasized detrimental effects of anxiety on the self-concept. However, as partners can help people maintain stable self-views, avoidant individuals' negative views of others might place them at risk for self-concept confusion. We hypothesized that avoidance would predict lower self-concept clarity and that less self-verification from partners would mediate this association. Attachment avoidance was associated with lower self-concept clarity (Studies 1-5), an effect that was mediated by low self-verification (Studies 2-3). The association between avoidance and self-verification was mediated by less self-disclosure and less trust in partner feedback (Study 4). Longitudinally, avoidance predicted changes in self-verification, which in turn predicted changes in self-concept clarity (Study 5). Thus, avoidant individuals' reluctance to trust or become too close to others may result in hidden costs to the self-concept.

Keywords: attachment; close relationships; self-concept clarity; self-verification; self/identity.

Publication types

  • Research Support, Non-U.S. Gov't
  • Research Support, U.S. Gov't, Non-P.H.S.

MeSH terms

  • Adult
  • Avoidance Learning*
  • Female
  • Humans
  • Interpersonal Relations*
  • Male
  • Object Attachment*
  • Self Concept*
  • Self Disclosure
  • Trust
  • Young Adult